How Eva (Reflector) learnt to make big choices calmly

From days of doubt to a calm choice in 28 days.

Where Eva felt stuck

Every decision drove Eva almost mad. Booking a holiday took weeks; changing jobs was unthinkable. People around her saw her as indecisive.

She knew impulsive decisions always turned out badly for her, but the alternative was paralysis.

Reflectors do not have an internal authority with a quick response. They are designed to wait a full lunar cycle for major choices: 28 days.

Her 6/2 profile also calls for time alone and a broader perspective.

Formally put major choices on the calendar with a 'decision date' 28 days later.
Briefly noted each day how the choice felt at that moment.
Talked it through with different trusted people (as sounding boards, not to ask for advice).

She moved to a village she had been thinking about for a long time. The choice was clear after 22 days; the final week confirmed it.

The process brought peace. She knew that 'not knowing yet' was part of how she made good decisions.

Even if you are not a Reflector, it helps with major choices to give yourself actual time rather than 'thinking about it over the weekend'.

Reflector · 1/3

From changing jobs every year to three happy years in one place.

Projector · 5/1

From an invisible worker to a strategic adviser to senior management.

Generator · 2/4

From higher pay and stress to less money and much more energy.

A composite example based on coaching sessions and conversations with readers. The name and details are fictional to protect privacy.

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